At some point you just have to analyze your circle or the people you choose to keep around you. I think I’m way past that point of “eliminating” people. I just know who needs to be in my life and who doesn’t. Who’s presence is edifying and whose isn’t. I just absolutely hate those random texts or phone calls from people you cut off. These are the same folks that feel so toxic, their presence isn’t warming, it isn’t uplifting….its just draining. I received a text from an ex homegirl of mine a couple of days ago and honestly, just looking at the message drained my spirit. (LOL) I was instantly upset. I think I was more so upset about the fact that she hit me up at a point where God is slowly transforming my spiritual life! My thing is I feel I am way too nice of a person sometimes I don’t know how to tell certain people I would rather they just not speak to me. I mean I don’t think its the most “christian” thing to do lol. I’m used to just praying people out of my life and TRUSTING God will do so lol. My point is….where do we as believers draw the line? When do we have to get confrontational and say enough is enough! Or is that just downright disrespectful? I mean she hasn’t done anything harmful to me, she’s just kinda a thorn when it comes to my faith. Sometimes I feel i need to keep certain people in my life around, even though I know they aren’t spiritually benefiting me in any way just because there may be an outlet one day to get this person saved. (I guess thats why I still had her number.) But I have to remember, that’s not my job…Its Gods job to reveal himself to them. I just have to be that messenger sharing the good news about Jesus Christ, the rest is left in Gods hands. I guess keeping them around but at a distance would be the right thing to do. Its just hard to do so when they just keep randomly popping in and out when they feel like. A part of me wants to be nice and reply to the message, the other part of me wants to delete her number and pretend she doesn’t exist. But I don’t have the guts to do that. I’m just the type of person who is a little too welcoming to everyone, no matter how “toxic” they may be. What if she’s at a place in her life where she needs someone to pray for her or just BE THERE? I never want anyone to feel alone in their pain, especially if I know there’s an escape from it. The other part of me just does not want a situation to occur where before you know it….we’re both hanging out and relations that were supposed to be completely cut off is slowly resurfacing. Only to find out the person is still that toxic individual only stunting your growth rather than helping you grow. Now, THAT is a huge NO for me. I’ll just keep doing what I do, ask God for wisdom and let him take the lead.
I guess its important as a young adult to KNOW Gods standards when it comes to friendships. This helps you reevaluate the people around you and if they match these standards. Proverbs 27:17 says “Iron sharpens Iron, and one man sharpens another.” This is pretty straight up! If the people around you aren’t contributing to your growth & maturity in Christ, then they need to be put to the side. Are they elevating you or pushing you down?
1st Thessalonians 5:11 says “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” Ask yourself, what kind of conversations am i having with the people around me? Is it edifying? Is it mentally tearing you apart? does it produce good thoughts in your mind? Do they encourage you and uplift you with the word of God? or do they encourage you to walk & live in sin?
Lastly, 1st Corinthians 15:33 says “Do not be deceived, bad company ruins good morals.” This right here is so plain & simple but the deepest. The moment you’re saved and you make that personal commitment to form a relationship with Christ, is the moment he cleanses you of all sin, of all stain and of all ties and connections that are not of him. Its in that moment that you have to also make a clear decision to change your environment for the good of your faith. Its so easy to run back to that one person or those same people who aren’t on the same path as you are, just for the sake of having company. Its hard, especially if you were once so close. But its more important to look out for YOU first and make sure you’re growing in Christ without any set backs or limitations. The only way God can effectively work through us is if we free ourselves from people & things that continuously hold us back. I hope this encouraged or even helped someone. I spoke to myself while writing this. Sometimes we ALL need that reminder to just Let Go!